Getting Angry Wastes Too Much Energy

"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."-Gautama Buddha

As a human being, we are not free from biases, human behavior and errors of human behavior. The worst human behavior is envy, jealousy and getting angry.

Getting angry is a human behavior error and it harm more you than others. As we know that everything is a form of energy n this universe. Everything meaning you, me, any physical object or any logical object that is present in this universe is just a form of energy. This concept of energy is best explained by Jaggi Vasudev (Sadh Guru) in his book The Inner Engineering.

What Sadh guru said is - The energy neither created nor destroyed. it just converts from one form to another like what we inhale for living-Oxygen that is exhaled by trees and what we exhale (Co2) is inhaled by trees. so, it just simple give and take or simple transformation of energy from one form to another.

The same is said by Lord Shree Krishna in Bhagvad Gita. In Bhagavad gita the context is different, it is about soul, birth, death and body. What Bhagavad Gita says:

"na jayate mriyate va kadacinnayam bhutva bhavita va na bhuyahajo nityah sasvato 'yam puranona hanyate hanyamane sarire"

The meaning of the above shloka is :

For the soul there is never birth nor death. Nor, having once been, does he ever cease to be. He is unborn, eternal, ever-existing, undying and primeval. He is not slain when the body is slain.

The purport of the above Shloka is :

Qualitatively, the small atomic fragmental part of the Supreme Spirit is one with the Supreme. He undergoes no changes like the body. Sometimes the soul is called the steady, or kutastha. The body is subject to six kinds of transformations. It takes its birth in the womb of the mother's body, remains for some time, grows, produces some effects, gradually dwindles, and at last vanishes into oblivion. The soul, however, does not go through such changes. The soul is not born, but, because he takes on a material body, the body takes its birth. The soul does not take birth there, and the soul does not die. Anything which has birth also has death. And because the soul has no birth, he therefore has no past, present or future. He is eternal, ever-existing, and primeval—that is, there is no trace in history of his coming into being. Under the impression of the body, we seek the history of birth, etc., of the soul. The soul does not at any time become old, as the body does. The so-called old man, therefore, feels himself to be in the same spirit as in his childhood or youth. The changes of the body do not affect the soul. The soul does not deteriorate like a tree, nor anything material. The soul has no by-product either. The by-products of the body, namely children, are also different individual souls; and, owing to the body, they appear as children of a particular man. The body develops because of the soul's presence, but the soul has neither offshoots nor change. Therefore, the soul is free from the six changes of the body.

A simple picture of life rotation or soul journey as per the HINDU Dharma is :

If you look in the science of micro objects then you came to know that everything is built of small fragments particles. and this small fragments are just one form of energy. 

Now, let's think about the anger. What is anger?

Anger or wrath is an intense emotional response usually involving agitation, malice, or retribution. It is an emotion that involves a strong uncomfortable and hostile response to a perceived provocation, hurt or threat. Anger can occur when a person feels their personal boundaries are being or are going to be violated.

Definition suggests that anger is an intense emotion of negative thoughts.

Observe, positive thought motivates you and increase your energy level. The opposite is, negative thoughts consume your energy and drown your energy level and reduce your creativity and motivational state.

"For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds if happiness."

Then why we allow our self to get angry on meaningless things?

The reason is obvious, we don't have control on our biases or behavior and may be we don't know the biases itself.

The energy that we have is limited, so we must use or waste it very cautiously.

There is a wonderful passage in the book : The Boys in the Boat. 

The book, which tells the story of the University of Washington rowing team in their pursuit of Olympic gold at the 1936 Berlin Olympics, focuses mostly on a young man named Joe Rantz. Rantz had experienced a horrible childhood. His mother died when he was four years old, and his stepmother began throwing him out of the house around age ten. In the end, he would end up abandoned by his family and end up hunting and foraging for his own survival. His father would eventually intervene, only to abandon Joe again when he moved the entire family.

Asked by his fiancée why he wasn’t mad about all of this, how he seemed to take this betrayal and loss so stoically, he tells her:

“It takes energy to get angry. It eats you up inside. I can’t waste my energy like that and expect to get ahead. When they left, it took everything I had in me just to survive. Now I have to stay focused. I’ve just gotta take care of myself.”

And of course, Rantz was well-served by this strategy. A longshot for making the crew at University of Washington, his team would end up narrowly beating Italy in the 1936 Olympics and winning the gold medal. But even if he hadn’t achieved all that success, had he not “gotten ahead”—to use his term—he still would have been right.

The Stoics saw anger as a destructive, draining weight that we add on top of already difficult situations. Like Rantz, they questioned who can afford to burn up so much energy? Things are tough enough, why put yourself further behind just because it might feel good to yell? Or to carry a grudge? Nobody abandons a family because they didn’t know it was wrong. Nobody is going to stop hurting you because you resent them for it. And no amount of rage will ever change the past.

It’s hard enough to survive life as it is. Getting mad about the unfairness or maddening randomness of it all wastes too much energy. Let’s focus our energy on where it can actually make a difference.

Focus to direct your energy in the right direction and see where it will take you in your life. Why to waste your energy on useless things, instead use the energy to increase your wisdom, teach the wisdom to others via physical classes or writing blogs like I write or maintain your health (Exercise).....

In my opinion, this post is very helpful for the person who is short tempered. I have many friends who are short tempered. 

Remember, anger is just an emotion and it is under your control if you want to control it. It is you, who is driving all the emotion inn your body not the body itself drive your emotions. There are many ways to drive your emotions like meditation and whoever have kids, anyway I think they have already learned patience in their life because kids teaches us how we can control our anger.

Let me close the post with the beautiful quote:

"Sometimes you must realize that the world is too beautiful to waste your time being angry or sad when you could be enjoying what life has to offer. "

To reduce or control your anger, reading good books is a best therapy. It will sure help you.

-Keep Reading, Keep Learning

-Mahesh